Lesbians ditch the U-Haul for an RV on National Marriage TourJul 11th, 2009 | By Jody May-Chang | Category: Editorial, Images, National, News
Meet Hersband & Wife, a comedic lesbian advice column team with a twist. Hersband is a visionary butch lesbian, who came out in the years just after Stonewall. Wife is of the more feminine variety and carries out Hersbandâ€™s vision. Although Wife always knew she was a lesbian she wanted children so she did not really come out until around the time she met Hersband. The two fell in love and when Wife’s husband moved out, Hersband moved in. The couple have been together ever since and six years later, they are still going strong.
Hersband & Wife’s sense of humor is not only unique but all the buzz as they seem to have captured quite a following. Although there is an ever-present edge of humor in most everything they say and do, there is one thing these women are dead serious about and that is marriage equality.
Hersband & Wife talked to PrideDEPOT.com about a rather unique and ambitious vision they have had in the works for three years that is now becoming a reality. “I come up with these bizarre ideas,” says Hersband, “and Wife makes them happen.”
And so the Hersband & Wife Marriage Equality Tour was born.
The duo will be traveling across the United States in a forty foot RV clad in sponsorship advertising where at each stop they will conduct a mass same-sex wedding. The tours slogan is; “50 Weddings, 50 States, 50 weeks, Bringing Awareness to 1138 rights and privileges GLBT marriages, civil unions & domestic partnerships are DENIED.”
The couple sees a problem with a lot of the larger national organizations, that they tend to be scattered off in different directions, duplicating efforts and not unified enough to get any one significant thing done.
“There is no one spokes person for the entire community as a whole,” says Wife. “We need someone that will focus on one thing and go with it and make a point.”
It is Hersband & Wife’s intention to bring LGBT and ally communities across the country together on the marriage issue in a way that has never been done before. The couple strongly believes that marriage equality should be front and center in the LGBT civil rights movement. They hope that with this tour, they will elevate marriage equality the top of the LGBT civil rights to do list.
“Were kind of a grass roots thing, we get peoples attention,” says Hersband. Although this dynamic duo approach the most serious of issues with humor, Husband does add, “We do always skirt on the edge of being heavy political.”
“We want to show the world that we’re not afraid to drive across the country in a big huge rainbow RV,” says Wife. “We are not afraid to speak out no matter what small town or big town we go to.”
Don’t be fooled by these women, this “whimsical lesbian comedic advice duo,” are very serious and have more vision and guts than most.
Living just outside of Nashville, Tennessee, “I always say we don’t live in the Bible belt we live in the middle of the buckle,” Wife says. Hersband adds that when they meet someone new, the first question out of their mouth is “what church you belong too.”
Now picture this, two lesbians in the local coffee house blogging and discussing how to respond to other lesbians asking advice on anything from dating to how to tell your children you’re gay. This is all taking place, as Hersband puts it, next to “a country western bible study” going on at the tables around them.
Although his picture may be somewhat hilarious, these women are not fooled into thinking this will be easy. They are however focused, dedicated and fully prepared to face head on what may come their way.
“We are tying to get people to understand that we are human beings and we all have been raised, gay or straight,” Hersband asserts, “to want a partner, a family, a home and for some children, everybody wants that!”
“Were trying to get everybody to understand that my gay marriage doesn’t effect your straight marriage.” Wife adds. “What is hurting straight marriage is straight divorce, not gay marriages!”
The couples main objective is to open the hearts and minds of people across the country and unite LGBT and ally communities. They want everyone to know that “gay doesn’t rub off” and it’s “ok to be a family and be gay.”
Hersband & Wife are working hard at gathering as many corporate sponsors as possible to fund the trip. They are currently in negotiations with several companies, some are very high profile, and more are in the works.
Carrying their creativity one step further, in addition to the corporate sponsors, those who make small donations on the Hersband & Wife website, or at local events, will have the name of their choice written on the RV as a kind of rolling petition for Marriage Equality. Additionally, those who would like to ride along on a leg of the tour may do so for a fee to support the cause.
Currently the women say they have high school and college student groups putting together fundraisers in their local communities. Grass roots organizing and special events are also being planned to engage the larger community. Included in typical Hersband & Wife style, is for all to have great fun in the process.
The Hersband & Wife Marriage Equality Tour is slated to launch October 31, 2009 at Atlanta Georgia’s Pride Celebration.
While on the road, the couple plan to blog on daily events and to keep up an interactive USA Tour Map with dates and events in each state. For more information on becoming a sponsor, host an event, help organize weddings, or just to monitor tour progress, visit HersbandAndWife.com or contact them at Sponsor@HersbandAndWife.com
These dynamic and ambitious women are most defiantly on the road for to change and PrideDEPOT.com will be keeping a close eye on their travels.
Jody May-Chang now writes on "As I See It...Reporting from the front lines